tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6246791088579104961.post5126218516388139046..comments2021-07-02T11:37:23.842-04:00Comments on Cross & Gavel Devotional: Hardened Hearts? Guard Your MarriageBen Garnerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04961137656568772265noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6246791088579104961.post-49399256636759613362010-03-19T18:23:36.265-04:002010-03-19T18:23:36.265-04:00So, I have a question about this. I divorced my e...So, I have a question about this. I divorced my ex husband 10 years ago because of continuing abuse, and that was largely because he hated women, because he was gay and would not admit it. Yet publicly, he proclaimed that he was trying to keep the marriage together, trying to humor crazy me. My children were subject to custody litigation for 4 years, 2 of them post judgement. It was hell. Do you mean to tell me that a Christian must stay married in those untenable circumstances and be compelled to live someone else's lie? <br /><br />It sure cost a lot to be free of this abuse, since he dragged the custody hearings up to the appellate, although he had serious mental health issues regardless of the gay stuff. In the end, he got just what I was willing to have - scheduled visitation, and the kids could also see him whenever they wanted, he volunteered at school, etc. So his whole custody thing was about controlling me. <br /><br />So you tell me - whose heart is hardened here? I am convinced we would be dead if I had stayed married to him, and that his friends would have molested my kids.McAssisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07784865892205834397noreply@blogger.com